Editor’s Note: This is the first in a series on sex and intimacy in your relationship.
Photo by Elmo Alves via Flickr
Did that title get you revved up for a Monday morning, or did you just groan and wish we’d move on to something more relevant to your life, like decluttering?
Emotions run high in both directions when you talk about sex and intimacy in a relationship. There are those who have given up on intimacy because of work, kids, or apathy, and others who struggle to get to “relationship nirvana” so hard they actually push their partners away. And in between those two extremes lie the rest of us.
This series is going to explore sex and intimacy as it relates to lifestyle design. After all, that’s what we’re here for, right?
Designing the level and type of sex and intimacy you want in your relationship is just as important as finding your ideal work, your dream home, and time for your creative pursuits.
In this series we’ll talk about:
- Finding – and being – an ideal partner.
- Checking to see that your partner’s tank is full
- Learning how you and your partner want to give and receive love (lesson: it may not be the same!)
- Saying “please” and “thank you”
- How much sex is normal?
- Why you don’t have sex like you used to (and how to change that)
- Keeping your sex life private, but being open to talking about sex in general with good friends. This support system will show you that you are “normal” – whatever that is!
- Talking to your kids about sex. Healthy attitudes about sex start in childhood, and I have an expert that will tell you how to translate your values to your children in an age-appropriate way
Do you have any questions or topics you’d like me to cover in this series? (If you don’t want to leave a comment, feel free toemail me.)
I’m not an expert, but I do have the real-world experience of a failed marriage, a successful marriage, and many hilarious/unfortunate dating relationships in between. Add to that some very smart friends, a good bit of therapy, and a fearless ability to ask people smarter than me about scary/crazy/intimate topics.
So, tune in for the next few weeks as we get down and dirty. If you don’t want to miss any of the posts, have them delivered to your inbox by clicking here or sign up for the RSS feed. And you’ll find extra goodies that don’t make it to the blog by signing up for the 3 Things Newsletter.
Let’s Get It On!
Sex and Intimacy Posts:
You’ve Lost that Lovin’ Feeling
Are You Speaking the Same Love Language?
How Much Sex is Normal in a Relationship?
Talking to Your Friends About Sex
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About Betsy
Watch out Barry White….here comes Betsy Talbot.
Barry was right when he sang "I’ve Got So Much Love to GIve" – he had 2 failed marriages and 9 children from various relationships! We’re going to shoot for deeper intimacy with one person in this series. Barry can keep his crown.
whoa, this should be interesting, Dr. Ruth…if this doesn’t drive up your traffic, I don’t know what will!
Is talking about your sex life (or being grilled about it!) at book club, count as a topic?
What happens at book club stays at book club, Karen. You are safe.
But we will cover being open about sex with your friends as a means of support and education in one of the later posts.