Editor’s Note: Looking for examples to get unstuck right now? If you are in the Seattle area, join me live on 10/25 with Rachel Whalley of Healing for Good Girls and emcee Debb Whitlock of the Femmenation Radio Show as we reveal the juicy stories and powerful strategies that took us from stuck to free and insecure to confident. Buy your ticket here. (Did I mention there would be wine?)
In the first week of our visit to the US we’ve been asked approximately 800,000 times how to get unstuck or move through a tough situation. (It’s been a busy week.) It’s a popular question, and it shows just how many people feel confined in some way or another in their lives.
People often look at our lifestyle as a way to throw their cares and problems in the wind, focusing on new experiences and shedding the old crap that leaves them feeling depressed, mad, or frustrated. They think because of our lifestyle we have the answers to their problems.
Well, it turns out we do, but not in the way you might think.
When you get stuck
Have you ever gotten your hand stuck in a jar while doing the dishes? You have to soap it up, move it around, squish your hand and gradually work it off. Worst-case scenario, you might even have to break the jar, but either way it requires some action and adjustment on your part.
It is the exact same method in real life when faced with a big problem or an underlying dissatisfaction with life. You have to find a sufficient lubricant to make things mobile, and then you have to move around until you find the position that gives you the release you need.
(This is sounding an awful lot like sex, but for once I don’t meant for it to.)
You can’t just change your surroundings and expect those problems to go away. Leaving the kitchen with a peanut butter jar on your hand and going to work will not make the peanut butter jar disappear. Putting on a great outfit will not make the peanut butter jar go away. Traveling halfway around the world will not remove the peanut butter jar from your hand.
You can’t avoid/hide/distract yourself enough to make the peanut butter jar disappear. And there is no way you can avoid occasionally getting stuck, whether you eat peanut butter or not.
How you get unstuck
So back to the original question on how to get unstuck.
How in the hell do you get rid of the stupid peanut butter jar on the end of your arm, the one that’s driving you crazy, keeping you from living the life you want, and making even the simplest things in your life more difficult?
Everyone gets stuck at some point. But for every person breaking free, there are dozens who simply stop living and spend their days complaining and regretting their situation. You aren’t one of those people, so we’re going to show you how to get unstuck in 3 basic steps.
- Identify the source. You can use the 5 Whys method to determine what’s really bugging you. Are you unhappy at work because you haven’t gotten a raise, or is it really because you don’t feel like your contributions are noticed and appreciated?
- Find an example. You aren’t the first person in the world to have this problem. There are those who have gone before you and solved it in numerous ways. Do your research live, online, and in books to figure out which solution out there fits you best. Google is your friend, and so is your neighborhood bookstore.
- Take action. How can you best start soaping up this jar and extracting it from your life? The small, everyday adjustments are more effective and less painful than simply busting the jar or cutting off your hand. (You wouldn’t believe how many people cut off their hands.) Make a plan, and take action on the plan.
Be prepared for sticky situations in the future
I’ve been stuck plenty of times in life, and I expect it to happen again occasionally in the future. It isn’t a judgement call on you that something is not going right in your life – it happens to everyone – but it is if you let it continue.
Develop the skills for getting yourself unstuck, and you’ll never have to envy anyone else’s lifestyle again.
Looking for an example to get unstuck right now? If you are in the Seattle area, join me live on 10/25 with Rachel Whalley of Healing for Good Girls and emcee Debb Whitlock of the Femmenation Radio Show as we reveal the juicy stories and powerful strategies that took us from stuck to free and insecure to confident. Buy your ticket here. (Did I mention there would be wine?)