Before We Talk About Us, Let’s Talk About You.
Making a relationship work takes, well, work. You know this, of course. At least intellectually.
But the movies, books, and ads that are so prevalent in our world can’t help but influence your thinking. They would have you believe that it’s a magic spark, a love at first sight, or a deep psychic connection where you just know what each other needs.
Cue the romantic music.
That emotional part of your brain often overrides the logic you know to be true, and you start wondering why your relationship doesn’t measure up to what you see all around you.
We’re here to call bullshit on all that nonsense. You watch a mushy movie or read a trashy romance novel for entertainment, not instruction.
So let’s get back to that “work” concept from before. While we’re in agreement that a good relationship does take work, it shouldn’t feel like work, at least not in the way you’ve looked at work before.
This kind of work is teamwork, and it’s what we’ve been learning in depth since 2008, when we first decided to remake our lives and live, work, and travel together 24/7.
We’re Warren and Betsy Talbot.
Nice to meet you!
We are a recovering, 40-something, Type-A couple who learned that living large is not necessarily living well. We did all the typical things people do in their 20s and 30s: climb the corporate ladder, get married, buy a house, get divorced, climb the ladder some more, get married again, accumulate more crap, and keep repeating the process like hamsters on a wheel.
We were in love with each other but not with our lives.
We knew we were heading for divorce. After all, we’d both been there before.
So we decided to start examining all the ways we were unhappy…and all the options we had for reversing that. This started a series of life experiments and changes that dramatically improved our relationship and led to our biggest discovery yet.
Betsy’s brother suffered a surprise heart attack at 35, and just one year later our good friend Maria had a brain aneurysm at 34. These events both shook us to the core, illustrating how little control we had over our well-planned future.
We then asked ourselves the question that changed our lives:
If we knew we wouldn’t make it to our 40th birthdays, what would we do differently right now?
At the time we were both well into year 37, and the thought of not making to 40 forced us to focus on what we really wanted in life: world travel. We joked about our ‘crazy’ dream for just a moment before we came to the realization that nothing was stopping us from world travel except ourselves.
How we made it happen
We asked that question on September 1, 2008, and we spent the next 25 months making our dream a reality. We became teammates in a shared goal, working together like never before.
We sold everything we owned, saved a mountain of cash, and started this website. We left on our journey on October 1, 2010, celebrating our 40th birthdays within a few months of our departure.
Most people think the best thing we’ve ever done is to travel the world. But we’ll tell you without a doubt that the best thing we’ve ever done is create a partnership so strong we think we can do anything together.
And that didn’t happen until we had to spend 24 hours a day together. We were forced to make it work or call it quits at various points around the globe.
We chose to make it work.
That feeling of teamwork didn’t happen overnight, but it did happen. And in our books, website, podcast, and weekly newsletter, we reveal the steps we took and the ongoing insights we learn so you can go from lovers to full partners, too. (There’s a difference, you know.)
If you like what you’re reading, stick around. You’re just in time for the publication of our best book yet, The 24/7 Relationship: How to Live, Work, or Travel Together…Without Killing Each Other, on March 15, 2014.
Until then, we invite you to check out all the resources we have for living the life of your dreams with the person you love.
- Subscribe to the Sunday email
- Listen to the weekly podcast
- Read our books
- Find a good article
- Join us at an event
We can’t wait to get to know you!