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Are you up for a little challenge?

Who doesn’t love a good challenge? Well, most people, actually. But we know you are different, and so are we. That is why we are embracing the challenge by author Erica Bauermeister to do something new, difficult or scary in the next year and the opportunity for one of you to win a copy of her latest book, Joy for Beginners, which is starting to make an appearance on the bestseller lists.

(*Skip to the bottom of the post if you Simply.Cannot.Wait to find out the details of the challenge. We know how you are.)

About the Book

Erica has written a book called Joy for Beginners, which centers around 6 women who have supported their friend Kate through a diagnosis and recovery from cancer. Kate’s daughter has challenged her to take a whitewater rafting trip down the Colorado River as part of her emotional recovery from the process, and her friends all heartily agree.

What they didn’t count on, however, was Kate’s feisty attitude. She said she would do it if they in turn would complete something new, difficult, or scary within the next year. And because she didn’t get to choose her challenge, they won’t either. She proceeds to assign each one of them a challenge that is uniquely suited to them, and the book is about each woman’s journey to complete the challenge and how it changes her life in a profound way.

I was lucky to get Erica on camera for an interview about the book, challenging ourselves in life, and how we distinguish between the life we were given and the one we choose to live. There are two videos below, and I’ve provided a bit of detail for those of you who can’t watch video at work.

(Click here if you can’t see video #1)

(Click here if you can’t see video #2)

 

Video Highlights

After our greetings, we get down to the first question, which is about why she has returned to the subject of dealing with what life gives you and how you can build upon that. We also discuss the variety in ages and backgrounds of her characters, which make the books so appealing to a wide variety of people.

Erica tells a wonderful story of her sister-in-law, who is the inspiration for the book. After years of being in a band, she chose to put on a solo concert on her 50th birthday. Erica was wildly impressed with the nerve it took to do this, and she started thinking about why we stop challenging ourselves as we get settled into life.

We then talk about the importance of a sense of play as we become adults, and how “adults need to have fun so children will want to grow up.”

Fear cropped up in our conversation, and how we let little fears keep us back and possibly even judge others for fears we think of as inconsequential (even though they may think the same thing about us).

Erica then talks about her own desire to write about the “unimportant bits of life” that so beautifully illustrate the important things. She also talks about maturity and how she needed to season as an adult to be able to write some of these things at all.

We also cover the very intriguing plot point of having someone else create the challenges and pose the question: “Do our friends know us better than we know ourselves?”

Next we discuss the advice I was given in my 20s, that it was important to cultivate friendships throughout life because as we got older they would become increasingly important. This is also when Erica told us the line to one of her sister-in-law’s songs: “I don’t need flowers, I don’t need wine, I just want you to read my mind.” Good friends can often do that.

In part II, we chat a little bit about easing into a big challenge, such as when conservative character Marion gets her fingernails painted deep purple as a test for living with a tattoo. She gets stares at the grocery store and quickly goes home to take it off. Can we actually ease into a challenge like that, or do we have to do it feet first?

Erica also lets us in on the character research she did for that particular character at a tattoo convention and tattoo parlor, as well as the character research of traveling down the Colorado River on a raft, which was not by her choice.

We talked about the idea of groups of friends challenging each other and how meaningful it can be to hear that kind of feedback from someone who loves you. We were fortunate to be able to say things to our friends before we left on this trip that we likely wouldn’t have said otherwise, and it is a shame we had to leave in order to feel free to say it. Imagine how great it would be to have a challenge handed to you by someone who knows you - your strengths, weaknesses, and secret ambitions? Maybe it would be more inspiring to complete something you want to do anyway just because it was suggested by someone you respect?

Last, Erica talks about her dream of writing for a living and how it came to pass. She confirms our experience that living the dream is even better than what you can expect, and she talks some about her writing habits and daily life. Then she spills the beans about her last book, The School of Essential Ingredients, being recently optioned for a movie. I can just see someone like Julia Roberts bringing that to life on screen (though I did shamelessly beg promote myself for a role).

If you want to buy a copy of Erica’s latest book, you can get it just about anywhere in hardcover or on your ebook reader. The title may be slightly different if you live in Australia or the UK, so be sure to search by her last name. You can also click on the links above to find them online.

*Now on to The Challenge

We are of the mind that sometimes our friends do know us better than we know ourselves. And since we’re all friends here, you can see where this is going.

We challenge you to challenge us - something new, different, or scary for us to complete in the next year. If it is location-based you know that we’ll be in Belgium for the month of August and in Thailand beginning in mid-October. If it is personal, then you know our quirks just about as well as anyone. Warren has already gotten naked publicly twice since you’ve known us, so I’m not sure this will be as much of a challenge for him as it will be for me!

The winning challenge will get a free copy of Erica’s book, Joy for Beginners.

There is one teeny-tiny catch, though. hehehe

If your challenge is chosen, we get to choose one for you as well, and you have to report back (anonymously, if you like) to the readers just like we do.

Sound like a deal?

Okay, we’re ready to see what you’ve got. We will select the winner of the book and a new challenge next Friday, July 15th.

Comments are open for challenges…now!

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About Betsy

Betsy Talbot can't live without a Moleskine notebook, her passport, and happy hour. She sold everything she owned to travel the world with her husband Warren in 2010, and she's been enjoying her midlife crisis ever since. Betsy writes about creating the life you want from the life you already have in her books and on the Married with Luggage website. Drop her an email at btalbot (at) marriedwithluggage (dot) com and check out her Google+ page.

Comments

  1. Darin Moss says:

    Challenge Extended: While you are in Chiang Mai, develop, plan, coordinate, and execute an online project to: 1) Empower (and challenge) your entire amazing MWL network to perform a service/task/volunteer/better the world activity wherever they may be, 2) Capture these tasks and activities via posts, video, and other online channels, & 3) bring these all together as into an online, global “meetup” where all of the participants can collaborate, corroborate, and form a new network of purpose, “living the dream”, and sharing with others…

    This challenge will: Engage the skills you both already possess and present, challenge you to extend them in many different ways, and to advance the power of the collective good with the people that already appreciate the positive steps you have taken in the places you have already been ( Ecuador, etc.)

    I recognize that this is no small feat, but at the same time, we should never underestimate the power of what a group of committed people can do, when they set their minds on an objective… Go Big or Go Home!

    Thoughts, feedback, and comments always appreciated…

    Challenge Accepted? =)

    • Darin, are you sure you aren’t a motivational speaker, hanging out with Chris Farley in the “van down by the river?” This is a pretty big feat, and it involves the participation of several other people. We were pretty blown away with the participation of all of you in the ‘virtual minga’ we all did for the little clinic in Ecuador last year, so maybe that is something we can build on. Thank you for the well-thought-out response. And with your upcoming travels we could think of some very good return challenges!

      http://www.marriedwithluggage.com/2010/11/14/see-what-you-did-or-the-results-of-your-first-virtual-minga/

      • Just remember Betsy —

        We’re good enough…
        Smart enough…
        & Gosh darn it…
        We can do it!

        I do agree that the challenge is a big undertaking and the goal is to try to avoid it becoming a massive time suck while you are getting your work accomplished in Chiang Mai. Personally, I was just really impressed with the Virtual Minga, and wanted to challenge you all to advance on those previous successes!

      • Ugh, and a positive, cheerful followup. You are killing us with good vibes, Darin. You really need a van down by the river. In New Zealand, of course. ;)

    • Wow, I think this is the best one yet! Hard not to get pulled in by Darin’s suggestions, right B&W? It could certainly morph into a book. And I was going to suggest you adopt an orphan (God, I hope that isn’t too politically incorrect. If so, please forgive me).

  2. Karen Rosenzweig says:

    I just love Erica’s books! I still remember the great night we had at book club with her :)
    And don’t you fret, I’m coming up with a challenge for you both!!!
    Stay tuned…

    • Oh, Karen. We have no doubt that you will have a great challenge for us. Waiting patiently while your evil mind works…

  3. This is scary…not sure if you guys want to do this - babysit or spend a week travelling with at least two kids under the age of five. The parents can be around but you’ll be the ‘nannies’. Okay, we’ll make it easier — they can be under eight years old :)

    • Joanna, are you trying to challenge us or drive us crazy? ;)

      • Yeah, you’re probably right…it’s mind-numbing :) Speaking of which (lol), I was reading your finances blog (which I’m so glad you post) and noticed the alcohol percentage. I was wondering…could you & Warren maybe give up alcohol until October and use the average you would have spent on alcohol and donate that to, perhaps, an orphanage in Chiang Mai or similar? It could be a way to ‘give-back’ to less fortunate and the bonus is, if you didn’t really miss it, you could continue that way and have extra money for your travels, or extra to donate when you travel to poorer countries. Just an idea :)

      • Yikes, you’re hitting us where it hurts, Joanna. :) I do like the idea of donating to a worthy cause, but donating money to charity or giving luxuries up isn’t really a challenge or something new for us, and we’re looking for something that makes us shiver a little bit. I gave up wine for months when I trained for the half-marathon, and we did the virtual minga in Ecuador as well as significant charitable giving back in the US. Not that we won’t do those things again - they just aren’t in the “new, scary, or different” category Erica laid out for this challenge.

        We still like (meaning it scares the heck out of us) the idea of the work at the orphanage or doing some other kind of big simultaneous give-back project, but of course we have to wait to see what other challenges come our way first to make our decision. Thanks for weighing in (and the feedback on the new site!)

    • Tranque Fuller says:

      Go without alcohol? — Ah, that’s nothing! Why stop there? I think you should go without your adult beverages AND food altogether! Then go live in a cave and survive off of nothing but air and the little bit of dew you can lick of the cave walls! And why until October? Do this for the rest of your days and donate your entire savings to your favorite orphanage. Now that’s a challenge! ;) lol!!

  4. Karen Rosenzweig says:

    I want to know how you do the split screen interview on video - email me! :)

    • I bought the Ecamm Software with Call Recorder for the Mac (though it is available for PC too) last year and it offers picture-in-picture, side-by-side and either/or. I also use it to record client calls when we’re brainstorming and doing things we’ll both be referring to later. You can also strip out audio/video as needed for your project.

      I flaked out and forgot to upload this as a high-res video, so it would actually look better had I done it right (and I will be fixing that tomorrow). It’s a great product and I think it was only $20 or so.

  5. Thanks for the synopsis, because I can’t listen to this at work. I can’t wait to get home tonight to watch it.

    The book sounds amazing, and I’m really looking forward to reading it. Once again, the timing is amazing for me because on a whim last Friday I decided to run a half-marathon in November. I have never been a runner or even wanted to run, but I was reading about this event that raises money for Aids Project L.A. - one of my favorite charities- and follows a beautiful course along the ocean. As a bonus, two nights at a nice hotel are included if you do it. I confess that I thought to myself, “If Betsy could do it, so can I.” Now I’m so excited about it! And to start off my training, I promptly tripped and fell face forward on the pavement Sunday night after fireworks, scraping the hell out of my knees and face. That’s when I knew there was no going back! I just have to delay starting my training for a few weeks. :) And no, I wasn’t actually drinking alcohol, it was just very dark and our sidewalks could use some loving care.

    SO- I’ve been thinking about a challenge to issue to you guys that would be particularly new or different for people who are already traveling the world, jumping out of airplanes, and climbing mountains. Thinking back to something Betsy said about children being snot-nosed and germy (which incidentally cracked me up), my challenge is to spend at least 2 weeks at the Chiang Mai orphanage caring for babies and children who have been abandoned and need love and care. It will be a way to experience the Thai people directly, rather than as a tourist, and to make a contribution to the country. I think it would be an experience that would enrich you and stay with you the rest of your life. Here is the link to find out all about it: http://www.gapyearinasia.com/chiangmai.html

    I hope I’m not disqualified for being the first comment!

    Thanks for this great post. I’m really looking forward to reading this book.

    • Angela, I did that synopsis specifically for you because I thought you might not be the only one!

      Your challenge has really set me back, which is saying that you hit a sore spot. Like I said to Rob, I’m not sure I could handle the heartbreak factor of the orphanage, though maybe that’s the point.

      I’m really excited about your half-marathon and know you will love the experience as much as I did. Everyone in the world should experience the joy of a hard task and thousands of cheering people at the finish line at least once in their lives. It is mind-blowing and will change your life forever (the total experience, not just the cheering).

      Thanks for a very well-thought-out challenge.

  6. Whoops- I guess I wasn’t the first comment by the time I finished writing this…

  7. Katy Woodworth says:

    I love the kid challenge and have just the kids! My nieces are 11 and 7 – they have traveled from Iowa to Kentucky a couple of times but never outside the USA. It would change their lives and yours!! So if you are up for that one – we can make it happen!! Seeing the world through kid’s eyes gives you an entirely new perspective.

    Alternative challenge would be to go to a place and volunteer yourself for a week or a month….doing something like building a house, make a school, dig a water ditch…something that is outside your comfort zone and totally of service.

    • Katy, is this your way of getting a trip to Thailand? Because you know you can come see us without issuing a challenge. :)

      I do like the idea of volunteering more. We did some Habitat for Humanity work back in the States and I do know how to work a saw and a shovel. Good idea to try it in a foreign country and on a weekly/monthly basis instead of the donated hours at my convenience like before.

  8. rob philip says:

    Fascinating. Apparently parents seem to find the concept of non-parents dealing with “snotty nosed little monsters” to be an “out there” challenge.

    For me .. I’m unsure right now whether I’m willing to accept someone else handing me a challenge, so I think I’ll sit this one out and watch from the sidelines… which doesn’t mean I won’t be inspired, of course.

    • I have to admit that one threw me for a loop, but it is a big open spot in our resume of life, for sure. It wouldn’t be as big of a challenge as people would think (I do have nieces, a nephew, and plenty of cousins that were trusted in my care), though I think working in an orphanage would be tough for the heartbreak factor alone.

      Also, we hardly think of you as a sideline kinda guy, Rob. :)

      • rob philip says:

        As for the orphanage - those kids are going to be there whether you go help or not. I the heartbreak is the challenge, perhaps there will be some joy to balance it. Just saying…

      • I agree, Rob. It might be just the right kind of challenge. And who knows, maybe we’ll do more than one of these challenges.

  9. I’m busy. ;-)

  10. Also thank you for the details of the video. It takes forever to load in China and well takes the fun out of watching it. ;)

    Okay now to my challenge…It is for Warren! Which when I was thinking about my challenge I automatically thought of Betsy…sorry Warren, but then something popped into my mind for you Warren. :)

    I challenge Warren to start SELLING his photographs. :)
    My idea or challenge is that you print them out in a 5×7 and sell them to anyone and everyone for a minimal price. I know much lower than their actual value. To set up a stand or carry them around in a backpack. To sell them on the street. The purpose is to become more comfortable with talking and sharing your photography with EVERYONE and maybe making some beer money on the side. :) You don’t have to share the beer money if you don’t want to.
    My hope is that after a few months of selling your photographs (for beer money) on the street your blog you become more comfortable selling your photographs and begin selling them for more money either via your blog or other mediums.

    There you have it…my challenge!

    I once read an article on Oprah (love her) from a woman who traveled to Japan and didn’t plan one thing…not one thing. She only asked strangers where to stay what to do and she did just what they said. She arrived in Japan and asked where to stay and she found the hotel and booked a room. She didn’t argue or complain and only did activities and ate at restaurants that they suggested. She talks about how it took her on an amazing adventure that she otherwise would never have found. No travel book, no google, just recommendations from complete strangers. It was pretty cool.

    Lots of love from East Asia!

    Paz

    • Paz, this is a great challenge! And I’m not just saying that because you made it for Warren. :) Selling pictures in the street - wow. You know, we’ve learned a lot of appreciation for people who have to sell things on the street since we’ve been traveling - goods, tours, whatever - though I can’t say we ever pictured ourselves in their shoes. That will be a good challenge, for sure. And it fits all 3 criteria!

      And if we pick yours I promise not to ask you to have another child. :)

    • Karen Rosenzweig says:

      I read that Oprah article too and it was great - thanks for the reminder!
      Selling pix in the street reminds me of Amazing Race and one of their wacky challenges :)

  11. had to add…that if our challenge is choosen that you can’t reply with a challenge for a third child…. we are just fine with two. hehehe lol

  12. Karen Rosenzweig says:

    I’m confused - seriously. You shouldn’t get to choose your own challenge out of all the suggestions - it’s supposed to be out of your hands.

    I say you post all the suggestions and let us vote - WE are supposed to pick your challenge! :)

    • This is what you call a benevolent dictatorship. :) We get to choose because we have to get in touch with the winner to make sure we know enough about them to issue a challenge back and that they are still game to do it.

      I don’t think you have to worry that anyone is going to give us something easy to pick. I mean, people are ready to ship their children to us!

  13. In Thailand, they eat some very strange things. I challenge you to eat a plate of insects and grubs.

    • hehehe. That’s a good one, Sherry. I had already said I would eat bugs in Asia, and Warren agreed to photograph it. Maybe we should feed him bugs, too?

  14. Marisa Di Lorenzo says:

    Maybe it’s time you face your fear of cows Betsy…….. working on a dairy farm?

    • Ugh! You are killing me, Marisa! Not everyone knows about my fear of rabid cows (well, now they do - thanks for that).

      You know I’m only afraid of them “in the wild.” :) I just knew you were going to challenge me to go to Australia. hehehe

  15. Loved the interview - you really should have a program, Betsy. Interviewing is definitely your forte’. I just purchased “Joy for Beginners” on line, even before the interview was over.
    Having just written a (fun/challenging/scary/silly) bucket list a few months ago, and having completed my first self-imposed adventure (white water rafting!), I’m so ready for this, and can’t wait to share this idea with my friends, all of whom are already excited to share my bucket list activities…

    • Alisa, thanks for your kind words. You will love the book simply because of the white water rafting adventure! And I’m so jazzed to see the things you are doing even from afar online. I’ve never heard of anyone creating a “silly” bucket list, but it is an idea that should catch on. In the book one of the characters talks about the need to “grow down” and another one says “adults need to have fun so kids will want to grow up.” I love both of those lines - and the fact that you are living them.

      Good on ya, girl.

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